Fylde Coast Men's Support Association (FCMSA)
(FCMSA) SERVICES PROVIDED:
(FCMSA) THE FYLDE COAST MEN'S SUPPORT ASSOCIATION, (formerly known as MRSA)was established in January 2001. We Provide Help, Support and Advice to Male Survivors of Rape, Sexual Abuse and Partner Abuse.
We also Help and Support Men who suffer with Depression and Men who Self-Harm
07932 898274 (Daily 9.00am till 6.00pm).
Weekly - (Thursday) 7pm till 9pm.
Weekly - (Wednesday) 10am till 12noon.
( Held in Fleetwood )
Therapy Group Meeting:
Weekly - (Friday) 7pm till 9pm. Held in Fleetwood.
Weekly - (Wednesday) 10am till 12noon By Appointment
Weekly - (Friday) 1pm till 3pm By Appointment( Held in Fleetwood )
Provided by our own specially trained volunteer Listeners. This is a totally Private & Confidential service.
Counselling: We can provide Counselling Sessions using our own Counsellors. We also offer and provide a Counselling Referral Service.
Training: Provided to Voluntary and Statatory Agencies / Individuals. Also for Survivors and Family Members.
Information Service: For Survivors, their families and friends or anybody who may come into contact with Victims and Survivors maybe through their work.
Address: (FCMSA) PO Box 126, Fleetwood, Lancs' FY7 6WN
" YOU ARE NOT ALONE "
Although The Fylde Coast Men's Support Association is aimed to Support Male Victims of Child Abuse, Rape and Domestic / Partner Abuse, we work very closely with both Female and also Childrens Oganisations and Groups.
We also provide Help and Support to Men who suffer with Depression and also Men that Self-Harm
(FCMSA) is currently seeking new volunteers to work in the community with Victims and Survivors. We need Qualified Counsellors, Carers, Befrienders and Fund Raisers. If you feel you can help, please don't hesitate to contact us. Email or Telephone Simon Co-ordinator to arrange an informal meeting.
RUN BY SURVIVORS FOR SURVIVORS
Simon: Is the Founder and Co-ordinator of (FCMSA). He established the Support Group and Helpline in January 2001. He has gained Certificates in Counselling, Psychology and Drug Awareness Studies. He is a Listener and he also facilitates Training Days and Workshops.
(FCMSA) has a number of dedicated Listeners, Volunteers and Helpers.
Joanne, Donna, Sue, John, Adam
(FCMSA) TRAINING DAYS
One Day Workshops:
Our Training Day programmes focus on many issues including: Defining Male Rape, Childhood Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence. We look at the Myths and Facts behind these issues, Latest statistics, Signs to Look for. We also look at other related topics such as; The Law, and "How You Can Help a Victim move on to a Survivor".
These workshops are mainly aimed at professionals ie; Support Workers, Drug and AlcoholWorkers, Counsellors both Qualified and Student, Mental Health Workers, Nurses and also Law Enforcement Agencies such as the Police, Prison Service and Probation Service ect.
Training is mainly facilitated by Simon (Founder and Co-ordinator) of The Fylde Coast Men's Support Association. We also have Guest Speakers such as Qualified Counsellors or Survivors.
Training Days can be held at a location in Fleetwood, or it can be held at your place of employment.
Cost for Training: is £10.00 for each delegate, discounted rate for Voluntary Groups and Organisations - £5.00 each place.
These prices include refreshments - Tea, Coffee and Juice. (It does not include any meals).
FREE WORKSHOP (HOW TO SURVIVE)
(FCMSA) is providing a Free (Half Day) Workshop for Victims and Survivors of Male Rape, Childhood Sexual Abuse and Domestic / Partner Violence.
The issues covered include: How to move on from Victim to Survivor, how to cope with Flashbacks, Nightmares or Sleeping Problems, dealing with Addictions such as Self - Harming Habbits, Drinking Problems, Drugs and Gambling ect.
Refreshments will be provided free of charge. The Workshops are held in Fleetwood.
WORKSHOP FOR FAMILIES AND FRIENDS
(FCMSA) Are now providing (Half Day) Workshops for the Family Members, Friends and Loved Ones of Victims/Survivors.
The Training covers various issues including: What are the effects of Male Rape, Sexual Abuse and Domestic Violence. Myths and Facts, Why Victims don't seek Help, Signs to look for, How to assist a Victim and related topics such as Self - Harming, Suicide ect.
The Workshop Fee is £7.50 each person and £5.00 each for unwaged. This includes refreshments, Tea, Coffee or Juice. Training is held in Fleetwood.
Other Training / Workshops
Supporting People Who Self-Harm.
Working With Depression.
Anger Awareness / Management.
POEMS: BY SIMON (FCMSA)
A VICTIM OF TOREMENT, A VICTIM OF PAIN, A VICTIM FOREVER FEELING THE SHAME.
RAPED AND ABUSED, BEATEN AND SLAPPED, O'H MY GOD WHY WAS I SO TRAPPED.
SO WHY DID IT HAPPEN, WHAT WRONGS DID I DO? TO THE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME, PLEASE ANSWER ME DO.
TO END YOUR NIGHTMARES AND YOUR LIVING HELL, TO END YOUR FEARS YOU MUST ALWAYS TELL.
MOVING ON FROM A VICTIM, TO BEGIN SURVIVING AND WHEN YOU ARE READY, YOU TO CAN START THRIVING.
MY MEMORIES OF HURT, MY MEMORIES OF FEAR, MY MEMORIES OF CHILDHOOD WILL ALWAYS BRING A TEAR.
WHAT YOU DID WAS SO SO WRONG, MY THOUGHTS OF YOU, HAVE LASTED SO LONG.
I BLAIMED MYSELF FOR WHAT YOU DID, BY CHRIST I WISH I WOULD OF LIFTED THAT LID.
KEEPING YOUR SECRETS AND HIDING YOUR LIES, AT TIMES ALL I WANTED WAS TO LAY DOWN AND DIE.
THE YEARS HAVE NOW PASSED AND MY FEARS ARE NO LONGER, WITH EACH NEW DAY, I GET STRONGER AND STRONGER.
HOW YOU CAN HELP A VICTIM
1) Believe His experience, without question and without blame, whatever the circumstances He was not looking to be Raped, Abused or Beaten.
2) Respect any fears that He has, Rapists and Abusers often threaten to Kill the Victim, if they don't comply or if He tells anybody. This fear usually remains long after.
3) Accepting His strong feelings, and tolerate any Mood Swings.
4) Listen to Him without making any Judgement.
5) By showing Him that you care.
GUIDLINES FOR LISTENING
The main quality needed to Help a Victim is the Ability to Listen. When a Victim knows that somebody is really Listening to them, this then makes them feel that they are being Heard, and this in return makes them feel more relaxed and comfortable.
1) Listen to the Victim with undivided attention, and it's so important not to interupt them.
2) Remember what the Victim has said, details are extremely important, the more you Listen and the less you say - the better your memory.
3) Tolerate any pauses and silences, and Avoid Asking Questions to Break the Silence (Don't be Affraid of them).
4) Trust: is something that is built - up gradually and maintained over time.
5) Sometimes it's important to be able to step into the Victims frame of reference. This gives you an idea of how they feel, so enables you to Help them.
6) To Empower the Victim is to give options and choices in ways of working and communicating. The Victim may not be able to verbalise feelings, so it may Help to begin writing a Diary of feelings, thoughts ect'.
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