Going looking for something is the best way to get lost.
A very clever strategy for deny~ing what is happening now is to look for a way to get rid of this in a so called 'future'.
This is a very honourable search to 'fix' something that is thought of as 'wrong'. But what if it's neither right nor wrong? What if you come across someone that doesn't think you need fixing in the first place. lol
Do you have an ongoing problem of some sort? Has it been going on for a while now?
Can you understand that on one level 'you' may feel pain but, on another level you've been very accomplished or successful at apparently 'creating' this so~called state?
When there is a 'dropping' of the indulgence of the drama, it is seen for what it is. And what it is, is simply the next 'thing' happening for an apparent character in a play called 'your' life.
Freedom TO as apposed to freedom FROM, can result from an openess by way of discussion in a friendly atmosphere.
You are constantly invited to a dialoque with yourself whether in your head or projecting other individuals 'out there'.